‘The opponent within one’s own head is more formidable than the one the other side of the net’ Gallwey
Coaching is unlocking peoples potential to maximize their own performance.
Maybe harder to give up instructing than to learn how to coach!
Good coaching should take a performer beyond the limitations of the coaches own knowledge.
Build awareness and responsibility and self-belief
Universal block = fear of failure or lack or confidence
Desired result from the coaching sessions without fail optimal clarity commitment to action and pre-emption of all obstacles
Intent of every coaching intereaction is to build the players self-belief
Bought up on telling, first as children then school, then by a boss – therefore good at it it’s a default but don’t remember well what we are told – matrix on p 22
Competition and growth are losing their currency; stability sustainability and collaboration gaining traction.
Blame is about history, fear and the past, need to refocus on aspiration hope and the future
Can only control that you are aware of. Awareness empowers you. Our natural level of self-awareness is relatively low. Self-awareness is knowing what you are experiencing. Input
(self generated) high quality relevant input
Telling someone to be responsible for something does not make them feel responsible that only comes with CHOICE.
Qualities of a coach: Patient, detached, supportive, interested, listens, perceptive, aware, self-aware, attentive, retentive
Problems can only be resolved at the level beneath that at which they manifest themselves.
Don’t use WHY questions it often implies criticism
Take notes, reflect back to check understanding
Helpful questions: What else? If you knew the answer what would it be? What would be the consequence of that for you and others? What criteria are you using? What is the harderst part of that for you? What advice would you give a friend in this situation? Imagine having a dialogue with the wisest person you can think of what would he or she tell you to do? What would you gain or lose by..? If someone said or did that to you what would you think do? I don’t know where to go next with this where would you go / what would the next question be?
When I want to I perform better than when I have to
What would you like to get out of this session
We have 1 hour where would you like to get to by the end of the session
What would be the most helpful thing for you to take away from the session
How much are you willing to invest in the process
Performance goals. What performance level would give you a chance of achieving the end goal
SMART – specific, measurable, agreed, realistic, time phased